Like to hear about it? Here it go….
Actually… I just really need to vent. All kinds of things going on.
So 2 or so years ago I had a bad breakup. He cheated, and then married the woman he cheated on me with. I moved into a house with my daughter and her husband and my grandchild. A year later, they moved to Vegas to follow their dreams. I moved in with a friend because we were both alone, we get along great, we motivate each other and as we both deal with depression… we keep each other from falling too far into the pit of despair.
We have another roommate… who, when I moved in, was a long haul trucker and the only reason roommate #1 agreed to let him live there was that he would only be home maybe 5 days a month… tops. But… shortly after I moved in roommate #2 lost his job and has been home pretty much 24/7 until he decided to go to EMT school… good on him! To the point, however, while he is pleasant for the most part, and attempts to be helpful…. he is the kind of person that is only good in small doses. And so… Roommate #1 and I have weathered this… I’m going to say he has better than I. But I’ve gotten to the point where *meh* it is what it is. I’m trying really hard to learn to let things go. Because some things just aren’t worth it.
So here’s one of those things… see my problem is that if I can’t understand a thing… it’s really difficult for me to drop… because I need to understand the thing.
About 2 months ago Roommate #1 went on a date with a woman. He didn’t pursue her…. she pursued him. On their first date… she stayed the night. Ok. You’re grownups… go on with your bad selves. But after that… she never left.
So let’s take a step back here. Back story on her: She moved here from another state with her adult daughter and they are staying with a friend in a pretty undesirable living situation. He adult child is married and her husband still lives in that other state, and even came to visit his wife for a week about a month ago. I don’t know a lot about the background of this woman and when I asked Roommate #1 he didn’t know either… and quite frankly, doesn’t seem to care… because he’s a man and he’s getting laid.
So back to it…. she has been here every night since that night and her daughter and her large dog have been here as well. 3 weeks in, I talked to Roommate #1 about the stress that this was causing. I work with public all day long. When I come home I need to recharge. I can’t do that now because I come home and my living room is full of people and dogs. I can’t even sit in the living room… I hang out in my bedroom now. There are no windows in my bedroom. This has led to some serious anxiety issues that are now starting to effect my work performance. And when I asked him to maybe slow down a little… because of this… he said that he had wondered about that… but he isn’t inclined to do anything about it.
Ok…. am I wrong feeling like that’s just really disrespectful? Not only of him but of her? I pay rent here. Not only that… but now she has a key to the house… which means she has 24/7 access to my things when I am not around… and yes… someone has been going through my things. Can I prove it? No. It’s my word against hers… and she is the one fucking him so…. where do you think that is going to go? I don’t know her. She isn’t paying rent. Shouldn’t I get at least a consultation on the passing out of keys to where I live?
What was I expecting? I don’t know… maybe ease into it. Cut it back to 4 nights a week instead of 7? I mean… even roommate #2 thinks the three of them here all the time is too damn much all of a sudden.. bam… welcome to your three new roommates in a 3 bedroom 1 bath home. *sigh*
Anyways… So I have sought out a new place to live. And it sucks I have to move. And I was told my some mutual friends that he told them I was moving and didn’t seem overly enthused about it. Well why not? If I moved out then his new family can move in full on. Oh yea… did I mention that he hasn’t spent any time with his step daughter or grandson since this all started? They used to get together once a week. She hasn’t seen him for 2 months.
Also… everyone who loves Roommate #1 is a bit concerned. Did I mention the girlfriend doesn’t have a job and the only thing she seems to be doing to rectify her undesirable living situation is to date my roommate? We love him. We want him to be happy. We also don’t want him to get used. And from the outside looking in… (hell.. from the inside even) it sure is suspicious looking.
Ok… I’m done now. Maybe I’m crazy. Maybe I’m a petty bitch. I don’t know. I was just getting to the point where I’m not killing all my plants again… LOL I’d really like some feedback on this one..